May I Call on You; Dating Like the Old Days

There was a certain decorum years ago with the ritual of dating that has changed some over the decades. Various cultural shifts no doubt contributed to a shuffling of norms and trends. Feminism, the Sexual Revolution of the sixties, women’s ascension in the workplace have all added to the richness of our society, but have also left many confused about how to play the oldest game in the book.



I don’t think one can be labeled a chauvinist by observing that women, and specifically younger women at least, appear to be more aggressive than their sisters of years ago. And this can be a tough read for a man; while he certain wants an assertive and confident woman, he doesn’t want to wake up to Leona Helmsley every morning either.



Taking a Page From the Elders



There is one feature of the old-style dating that cannot be dismissed and it is effective and useful today. Slow, take it slow. Not only do you get to know the other better, but the "romantic" tension simmers and builds to bubbling crescendo which can cement this budding love.



A Helping Hand



Having a good friend of the opposite sex, whose judgment you value and respect is a great way to meet someone special. This close friend, knows you as well as you know yourself, maybe even better. Let this scout act as a filter, trust their instincts and when they say, "I’ve got somebody I want you to meet." don’t hesitate to put on your Sunday best or doll yourself up and make plans to meet.



Both sexes are endeared with old world charm, but it must be genuine. As is often the case, it is the small things that add up to enduring affection; the tipping of the fedora, the curtsy, the lighting of a cigarette, the fluttering fan, the cape across the rain puddle.



Is the dating scene getting you down? Seek advice from dating expert Neil Strauss.